HE'S NOT YOUR PRINCE CHARMING: DARE TO LET HIM DREAM
Sometimes God gives us a task that is just too big for us. It starts, most often, as an idea. A spark.
Wouldn’t it be amazing if…
And somehow that tiny spark starts to light us up. We glow when we think about it. The idea warms us. We find ourselves wanting to flame it into something tangible and real.
Someday I’d like to…
As the dream grows and takes shape we who walk and talk with, and listen to Jesus are in constant conversation with Him about this idea. He is, we believe, the One who sparked the vision in the first place.
Lord, is this from You? Might it be Your prompting? Are You behind this dream?
That’s when we let others take a peek. Tentatively, protectively, we share the dream. Or part of the dream. At least the part that doesn’t involve us.
Somebody really ought to…
We hope our closest people will jump up and down and tell us they’re with us. That they’ll point out that we’re capable. That they’ll give us the courage to go for it.
You were made for this moment… I can see it….
That rarely happens.
Usually, people who love us caution us.
What if? You know that time you? Be careful? Have you thought of?
And the dream falters. Those doubts and fears and insecurities we’ve ignored like buzzing flies land on our skin and burrow deep.
Or for some, stubbornness sets in. We set our jaw and feel sorry for ourselves and resent the ones who love us enough to tell us not to try that thing they don’t dream about and wonder why we do.
Why doesn’t she understand? Why does he always have to throw cold water on my ideas?
And sometimes we just let the dream die right then and there. It was ours for a moment but now its not. We go on with what we’re supposed to do but the spark is gone from the day-to-day. The burdens we carry seem a little more burdensome. The boring must-do’s a little more wearying.
The next time that sparks tries to ignite way back wherever it is that dreams are born, we snuff it out. Immediately. No use dreaming. That’s for other people, not for ordinary, less-than-amazing people like us.
Our dreams, we’ve been told, are selfish.
What about the kids? The house? The future?
And as we grow older, that daring, adventurous, BIG part of our soul just shrivels up and dies. We’re not heroes-in-the-making anymore.
We drudge. We crank. We grumble.
And that, my dear girls, is what happens when we squelch the dreams of those we love.
When we caution our man about all the things that could go wrong…
When we insist we know it’s not for him or for us or for our future together…
When we point out the obvious— that nobody dreams that big except the somebodies.
And we don’t let him be a somebody because… well, I don’t really know why.
When my wants clash with his dreams and I get squeamish maybe its just because I’m afraid. And maybe instead of trying to talk him out of it I should just trust him.
Or maybe not. Maybe I can’t trust him because I think he’s selfish and foolish and just wrong. Maybe that idea is just no good. Or no good for me. Or for the children we have or might have someday.
But what if we decided to trust God?
To say Yes.
To dare to let him dream and maybe even fail.
And then be there to tell him he’s not a failure, but a man brave enough to dream and you love that about him.
And then to pick up the pieces and let him dream again because you really do.
You respect a man who dreams and does because dreaming and then doing that dream is heroic.
Girls, I think it’s time we dare to let our men dream.
It’s time to let him know we’ve got his back even when we’re scared. That it’s okay if it doesn’t work out because we’ll still be there to let him dream again.
I think it’s time that we realize that He’s Not Your Prince Charming but he is a man with a need to dream. And if we’re the ones to squelch the dream he’ll never get to be that knight in shining armor he needs to be.
And if you think so too, I’d urge you to read Sarah’s story. It’s found in Genesis, chapter 12. Her husband had a dream and she chose to follow it with him through all the messes he made in the process. She risked, she endured, she laughed and she cried and she lost and she gained.
And she learned to trust God even when her husband failed.
I think it’s time we choose to be like Sarah.
From my heart,
PS: Sarah made some not-so-nice mistakes in the process of trying and so do we. But we can give each other courage by telling our stories- both good and bad. Would you tell us yours?